Tips for Starting Spiritual Conversations

"Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity."
Colossians 4:5

You love your friends and want to see them put their faith in Jesus. You can talk about a lot of things, but trying to talk about God is tough! You feel nervous and uptight and wonder how to transition the talk from everyday topics, to matters of eternal importance. How can you transition an every day conversation to a spiritual one?

Before we move on, be sure to pray for your friend's salvation. Pray that God will draw that person closer to Jesus Christ. Pray that your friend has a real openness to talking about spiritual matters. Jesus said, "No one can come to me unless the Father who sent Me draws (literally, pulls) him" (John 6:44).

Having prayed, now you are ready to talk!

1. Ask questions about them and their lives.

Almost everyone likes to talk about themselves. Show genuine interest in them. Friends want to know whether you care about them or not.

2. Ask them about their spiritual/religious background.

Most people enjoy sharing their experiences, especially if they don't feel judged or condemned.

Example:

"Did you go to church growing up?" If so, tell me about it..."

"Do you ever think about spiritual matters?"

"Do you ever wonder what on earth we are here for?"

"What do you think about God?" Do you believe in Him?"

If you are committed to doing this, be sure to listen! Show you care about your friend by valuing their opinions and respecting their world view.

3. Transition from a conversation you are having, to a spiritual conversation:

Example: "Speaking of ________, what do you think about _________?"

Note: be sure to focus on your friend's interests and concerns. It's not about you. Be patient. God will prompt you when to share more.

4. Ask your friend if you can share your story of how you became a follower of Jesus Christ. Many call this your "personal testimony". You can see a great example of the Apostle Paul doing this in Acts 26.

Example: "Can I share with you how I came to discover purpose and meaning in my life?" (it's good to ask permission)

5. Offer to pray for your friend when he/she is going through a crisis in life.

People are more open spiritually when they are hurting or in danger.

Praying for your friend is a caring act of love, and is spiritual at the same time. After praying with them, see if they are more open to talk about spiritual matters...