Help leaders learn how to partner with parents more effectively.


The influence of both the church and parents working together is more effective than just one of those influences alone. In this session, you will learn how to better partner with parents by building trust through communication and helping parents win.


  • Assignment 1 // Read Deuteronomy 6:4-9, 11:19, Ephesians 6:1-4 and answer the questions.

  • Assignment 2 // Read chapter 3, in the book Lead Small , by Reggie Joiner and Tom Shefchunas

  • Assignment 3 // Read the blog article online, “Embracing The Huge Potential Of Parents” by Joe McAlpine.


Take a look at these passages that talk about the importance that God placed on families and how we are all to help teach the children about God and their faith. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 addresses both parents and the nation of Israel. It shows that the responsibility for helping raise children and youth in the Lord is both on the parents AND their godly community around them. That’s us! As you read these passages, look for why partnering with parents is important, and what role you could play in being that additional godly voice in a child’s life.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (NIV)

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 11:19 (NIV)

Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (In reference to God’s commands and words.)

Ephesians 6:1-4 (NIV)

6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.


  1. Read Deuteronomy 6:4-9. How are we to love God? What are we to do with the commandments and things that we have learned about God with our children? In Deuteronomy 11:19, it talks about the different ways/times we can teach our children. Write those down.

  2. Ephesians 6:1-4, children are asked to obey and honor their parents. How can you help the children/youth in your groups continue to honor their parents? How can you honor the parents of those in your group? How can you honor your own parents in this season of your life?


Read chapter 3 in the book Lead Small , by Reggie Joiner and Tom Shefchunas (pp.80-109).

Partnering with parents is a critical part of our ministry to our families. If we only focus on the kids/youth that we are interacting with, we miss the most important partnership. Parents have the most influence and time with their children each year. If we combine both the influence of parents AND the church, together we can have a greater impact than just one influence alone! Sometimes we need to take a moment and recognize all of the challenges that parents’ face.


  1. List as many challenges as you can that a parent might face in raising a child.

  2. How have your parents’ influence shaped your life?

  3. Who have been the greatest mentors/influencers in your own life? Take a moment and list the people/figures who have been an influence in your life. Then next to their names, list WHY they were influential.


Read this blog article, “Embracing The Huge Potential Of Parents” by Joe McAlpine


  1. What answers did this module give you about partnering with parents in ministry and in life?

  2. What 1-2 strengths did this module affirm about your leadership?

  3. What growth areas did this module reveal about your leadership?

  4. What are 3-5 action steps you need to take in order to more effectively partner with parents to help connect students and kids?

  5. What takeaways do you have from listening to the podcast?

LEADERSHIP TAKEAWAY (To be completed during group discussion)